Understood that this is my 1st post of the year,
and I should choose a more positive title to encourage everyone. However, I
promise this won't be as bad as you thought and wasn’t any bit
demotivated. I still understand my role
as a soft skill trainer, so keep reading on.
Through my career and life, I have always heard accusation
of selfishness. Employee accuses their boss being selfish for not increasing
the salary or extending work hours. Parents accuse their children being selfish
for not listening to their opinions. Brothers accuse one another being selfish
for no particular reason. After spending so much time listening to all these
blame, I have obtained a simple conclusion; “Poor Communication” or
“Misunderstanding”.
All the above accusation of selfishness was due to poor
communication or misunderstanding. Employee accuses their boss being selfish,
because there is no proper communication between the front line workers and top
management, which results misunderstanding. Parents desire to have children to
take their advice, but fail to receive their children’s thought. Parents often
believe their opinion is better due to experience, but they fail to identify
their children as an individual with own ideas. For such, misunderstanding
appears.
In fact, I can’t really explain what’s the actual problem
between brothers or sisters, because they often accuse each other for no
particular reason. Some may say one is not taking the responsibility to take
care of the family. Some may disagree with one’s decision or plan. However, I
would say it is all about misunderstanding and poor communication. Family with
the above problem often do not have a direct communication channel, but through
members. Therefore, all the information received has been interpreted already
with additional flavor.
Anyway, I just hope this article can awake those yet to
understand that there is no such thing call “selfish” in this world. We just
didn’t communicate well. Whenever you want to accuse someone for being selfish,
think again. Because that someone may have help you or support you in another
area, where in this case he or she has just happen to stand in a different
point of view against yours. In such way, you will realize that all this
accusation is totally meaningless, unless you desire to surrender all support
from such person permanently.
At last, share a wonderful quote I obtained from my friend,
and may your God bring you peace and happiness for this 2012.
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