Selfishness

Understood that this is my 1^st post of the year, and I should choose a more positive title to encourage everyone. However, I promise this won't be as bad as you thought and wasn’t any bit demotivated.  I still understand my role as a soft skill trainer, so keep reading on.

Through my career and life, I have always heard accusation of selfishness. Employee accuses their boss being selfish for not increasing the salary or extending work hours. Parents accuse their children being selfish for not listening to their opinions. Brothers accuse one another being selfish for no particular reason. After spending so much time listening to all these blame, I have obtained a simple conclusion; “Poor Communication” or “Misunderstanding”.

All the above accusation of selfishness was due to poor communication or misunderstanding. Employee accuses their boss being selfish, because there is no proper communication between the front line workers and top management, which results misunderstanding. Parents desire to have children to take their advice, but fail to receive their children’s thought. Parents often believe their opinion is better due to experience, but they fail to identify their children as an individual with own ideas. For such, misunderstanding appears.

In fact, I can’t really explain what’s the actual problem between brothers or sisters, because they often accuse each other for no particular reason. Some may say one is not taking the responsibility to take care of the family. Some may disagree with one’s decision or plan. However, I would say it is all about misunderstanding and poor communication. Family with the above problem often do not have a direct communication channel, but through members. Therefore, all the information received has been interpreted already with additional flavor.

Anyway, I just hope this article can awake those yet to understand that there is no such thing call “selfish” in this world. We just didn’t communicate well. Whenever you want to accuse someone for being selfish, think again. Because that someone may have help you or support you in another area, where in this case he or she has just happen to stand in a different point of view against yours. In such way, you will realize that all this accusation is totally meaningless, unless you desire to surrender all support from such person permanently.

At last, share a wonderful quote I obtained from my friend, and may your God bring you peace and happiness for this 2012.

What would you do?

We, people who claim living in liberal city. We educated our kids not to bully. We complain no one gives a hand when things happen to our family or us. But what have we done for others when they indeed need our support?

I was shared with the attached youtube video, and feel sorry for us who enjoy freedom in our life. We become disconnect with things around us. We focus only on those concerns us. We care only for no one. We stand for no one. The worst, we even scare to stand for our own belief and integrity.

We need to wake up. We need to change. We need to start caring again.

Let's help each other....

For me, this picture draws out our current economical situation. We are living in a M-shape society, which the poverty gap will only increase further if we don't change. This is a problem for everyone, not just the poor or middle class, but everyone including the rich who is sitting at home while people are making money for him or her.

I totally agreed with those occupied Wall Street, demanding a fair share of wealth, because after all they did somehow contribute to the growth of their nation and deserve a piece of such success. However I oppose the emotion of hatred against the wealth. It takes a lot of courage to invest and start a business. It is never easy to be successful in this competitive world. Therefore these rich deserve to be rich as well, for being different. No one should encourage such emotional conflict between poor and wealth, because it will only bring chaos.

We need to find a right balance between the two.

I would strongly recommend the wealth to settle for compromise. Just like what we have learned from “Spider Man”, greater power comes with greater responsibilities. Money, status, and reputation represent power to mankind, therefore our fortune one should start taking their responsibility, to balance this society financially.

Mainstream organization in the world aim for higher profit each year, and such growth only impacts a very few individuals in the world, the investors. One needs to understand that success or growth does not just exist without anyone’s effort. Gandhi didn’t become one of the most influencing people in the world by his own. He succeeded, because many anonymous supported him. President Obama, the 1^st African American president of United States, did not win his election single-handed, but with thousand and thousand of people backing him up.

Without the majority of the labor force in the world, there won’t be any successful establishment at all. This is a true fact that everyone needs to recognize. Our rich need to wake up and start paying their employee fairly. They need to face the fact that inflation is happening to everyone. We need to help each other in order to survive. They need to stop buying new cars, jets, fancy suit, watches and bags, but to reward their invisible partners who spend hours to fulfill their dream of being success. Stop looking at the grass above the ground, and ignore the fact that there will be better return for your willingness to give.

I knew many rich would disagree with me, and prove me wrong by their consistent charity work.

Let me present my idea in another way. The amount of money contributed to the charity should be given to your employees, so we can have more middle classes in this society. More middle classes represents more people can perform charity. By doing so, you do not just provide the need of security to your followers through fairly paid salary, but also enlighten them the opportunity to achieve their highest spiritual need, the need of contribution.

Your act has a great impact in mankind by allowing more love floating around us. Your act will also allow more money floating in the market. The only sacrifice you made is your tax deductible through charity, which if you insist you can still do it by saving your money from not buying a new extra Porsche.

Please allow me to conclude. I do not against the rich. I do not represent the majority of poor. In fact, I am a middle class person. I represent no one, but myself. I just wish to share an idea that can bring us together again. We, human, have gone through so much difficulties through years to reach the current century. There are so many amazing things happened around us daily, but none of us can stop our step and appreciate them. Let’s help each other to fulfill those basic needs, so more of us can slow down our pace after money and spend more time in those truly matters to our life. Let's help each other to fulfill the ultimate need of self-esteem and make a better future together.

Love those...

Quote that someone has shared with me today, and find meaningful to share with everyone of you. Love those who hate you, for being better than them in somehow. Love those who look down on you, because they have yet figure out your capability. Love those who stop you from dream, because they have never live.